Rapa Nui to Routines: Who's Winning at Parenting? Not Me.
As we navigate the complexities of modern life, it’s fascinating how our surroundings shape our experiences. Whether you’re a parent, a friend, or just someone intrigued by different lifestyles, the contrasts between cultures can truly be insightful. I currently split my time between the United States and the island of Rapa Nui, and this unique perspective has me reflecting on how we approach life, community, and especially — parenting.
Rapa Nui offers a refreshing reminder of the beauty in spontaneity and connection. Our days there are filled with outdoor adventures, unstructured play, and a deep sense of community. It’s a lifestyle that feels liberating—especially for my daughter, River, who has the freedom to explore nature at her own pace, discovering the world around her in ways I can only admire.
Returning to the United States has been a whirlwind of joy—reuniting with family, catching up with friends, and indulging in those little luxuries I’ve missed, like dining out and shopping. But as River becomes more mobile and curious, I can’t help but reflect on the stark differences between parenting here and in Rapa Nui. This contrast is both fascinating and thought-provoking.
On the surface, the US appears to be a parenting paradise, brimming with modern amenities. Yet, I’m finding that it often comes with complexities. In Rapa Nui, where we live on the island’s remote edge, a very rustic life — life flows naturally. Our days are less about rigid schedules and more about spontaneity—whether we’re tending to our wild coastal ranch, enjoying the beach, or mingling with friends and family. This lifestyle fosters a liberating simplicity. Without constant Wi-Fi, we aren’t glued to our screens, allowing us to be truly present in the moment.
In contrast, life in the US can feel like a whirlwind of planning. Each outing—be it a music class, a library visit, or a playdate—requires meticulous scheduling. It’s intriguing how I often spend more time indoors, glued to my phone, coordinating activities instead of embracing the present. I find myself confined by the structure of our days, which contrasts sharply with the organic flow of life on the island.
In Rapa Nui, our adventures are gloriously unstructured. We tend to animals, fish, or simply play in the dirt and sand. River enjoys the freedom to roam and discover nature at her own pace. Here, however, my worries about safety seem amplified. You might expect a remote island to be more hazardous, but I feel more relaxed letting her explore and interact with her environment there. In the US, I’m hyper-aware of potential toxins and dangers, which can inhibit her ability to fully engage with the world around her. This constant vigilance highlights an interesting cultural difference in how we perceive and react to risk.
This experience has led me to realize that parenting isn’t just about creating a safe, comfortable bubble; it’s about fostering freedom and adventure. In Rapa Nui, I feel empowered to let River explore, while here, I find myself caught in a web of worry and over-scheduling. I once thought that parenting in the US would be easier, given the wealth of resources available, but it turns out that an abundance of options can sometimes lead to more stress than simply being present.
As I navigate these two worlds, I’m beginning to appreciate the lessons each has to offer. The laid-back vibe of Rapa Nui teaches me the value of spontaneity, nature, and connection, while the conveniences of the US remind me of the importance of resources and community support. I’m on a quest to find a balance—blending the best of both worlds as we continue this parenting journey. Perhaps there’s a sweet spot where I can embrace the structure of life here while still allowing River the freedom to explore and grow, just as she does on that beautiful island.
While I cherish my time in the US and all its perks, I can’t help but ponder how long I can maintain this lifestyle. There’s so much to learn here—both for River and for me as a parent. Being here is wonderful for many reasons, but the differences are now strikingly apparent, especially with River’s newfound mobility.
I can’t help but wonder if what I’m experiencing isn’t just my personal observation but something many parents grapple with in the US. Do they often feel that parenting revolves around planning and rigid schedules? If so, how do they manage to connect in the present? I think I could really benefit from insights shared by fellow young parents navigating this modern landscape to help me appreciate the beauty of parenthood beyond the confines I’ve encountered here. Let’s chat!